Why Rebound Relationships Are a Bad Idea

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Almost everyone has experienced heartbreak at some point in their life. Whether it was due to infidelity, broken trust, or loss of a loved one, pain and relationships often go together. As difficult as it may be for us to accept, it's an inevitable part of loving someone. They say it's only those who are closest to you that can really hurt you. That's because they know you best, and know what will really hurt you, and also because you expect so much more from them that you never really see it coming. However, one can't simply wallow in self-pity after heartbreak. You have to move on. How you move on is almost as important as deciding to do so.

One of the easiest and most self-destructive ways to handle a breakup is to get into a rebound relationship. A rebound relationship is a relationship you enter simply because you don't want to be alone. You just got out of a relationship, and you're not used to being single, so you hitch your wagon to the next horse that comes along. People also enter rebound relationships to cope with the pain of a broken heart. There's something about being with another person that can help sedate the hurt you feel. However, this isn't the smartest way to deal with a breakup for two major reasons:

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Sex is the last thing you need.

The truth is that most rebound relationships are based on sex. It's the primary reason why people find new lovers after they just lost one. Anyone who had sex before will tell you it feels great. It's that feeling that makes it so appealing. Unfortunately, having rebound sex is one of the worst things you can do to yourself because by nature, sex is bonding. You just broke off a bond with someone, only to bond with another. Can you see how bad that idea is?

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You need to date you.

Relationships are all about sharing - sharing your things, sharing your emotions, and sharing your life. The longer a relationship goes on, the more of the other person's characters and traits you take on. That means that in a sense, you're not you. You're a hybrid of you and your ex. Staying away from a rebound relationship will give you time to date you and get to know yourself all over again. Then, you can share your virtues with yourself, understand, and love yourself to the fullest.It's much better to be alone and let yourself feel the pain for a while before moving into another relationship. This isn't only good for your emotional health, but it can also help you figure out places where you need to do some personal growth and emotional development. It may hurt, but taking some time off relationships after a breakup is the best way to heal and grow. The good news is that it only takes a while. After some time, you'll be ready to enter the market and date again.